My sister and I have had many discussions about the art of crafting a good argument, particularly on the spot and with little time to get one’s point across. We lament that the worst thing to hear when you have an important point to communicate to someone is, “I don’t want to fight with you.” It’s as if it isn’t recognized that there is a difference between a discussion and a fight, or that an objective view is an option. Because of this we have secretly agreed between ourselves that our talent of doing this moderately well is actually a curse since it just gives us a bad name among those who are afraid of even constructive conflict.
So, yes, I agree with Jay Heinrichs wholeheartedly that Americans aren’t argumentative enough in that we can’t decipher between a vicious insult flinging feud and the art of persuasion and factual expression. I guess it’s safe to say a juicy argument with the sister whom I share the burden of this curse with would be the most satisfying. After all, Jay did say not to “argue the inarguable.”